You Should Be Dating Multiple Men

We saw this status from Ashley Cobb and agreed immediately.

“Some women look down on women who engage in rotational dating. But rotational dating is how you should be dating. I am a proud rotational dater ✋🏿. You may catch me out with one guy one day and somebody totally different the next. Dating is about getting to know people and seeing if you can do this for the long haul.

Rotational Dating helps you to keep your options open and not to get too emotionally invested too early. I see so many women sad in their feelings because a guy they’ve gone on 2 dates stops calling or still acting single (because he is). Get you a roster, sis! Date more than one and have fun!

Rotational dating isn’t hard, and eventually, over time the men start to weed themselves out of the rotation. Try it because sitting home pressed and pondering over one man who you barely know isn’t the move.”

Ashley, A Grown Ass Black Woman, owner of Sex with Ashley TV; educating people on how to create more intimate, exciting, and fulfilling sex lives one video at a time.

That probably has you sold on the idea but if you needed any supporting details, we got a chance to let Samone elaborate on the topic.

Keep reading for 5 reasons why you should be dating Tom, Dick and Harry or in our case Travis, Darius, and Hakeem at the same damn time…


Lemmie stop yellin,⁣

But forreal !

You want marriage right?⁣

You wanna just meet the perfect guy, go on a few perfect dates and just end up in the perfect relationship until he proposes & ya’ll get married right?⁣

I get it⁣.

The issue is you KNOW that’s not what usually happens. ⁣

What USUALLY happens is that you meet a guy you like,⁣

Ya’ll kick it for a while until you ask yourself:⁣

“Where is this going?”⁣

And THEN when you’ve dropped enough “what are we?”s ⁣

He makes you his girlfriend, you’re in a relationship for a couple of years & then⁣


Ya’ll break up⁣

It ends ⁣

& you realize⁣

You just wasted a LOT of time you can👏🏿never👏🏿get👏🏿back⁣.

Most women wait to get chosen by the guy they like, ⁣

SMART women create options for themselves & do the CHOOSING. ⁣

They make men EARN their exclusivity instead of giving it to them just because they’re “liked”⁣

Why?⁣ It:

1. Prevents over-investment⁣
Putting all your emotional eggs in one basket prematurely is reckless. Dating multiple men allows you to invest hope in YOURSELF instead of a man. ⁣

2. Forces men to step up⁣
They will know you have options & if they want you they will either have to step up or step OUT.⁣

3. Creates space for you to be pursued. ⁣
Once exclusive, it’s common for women to flip the script & pursue the man because they want him to find them worthy of the ring. Dating multiple men keeps you in a pursued state until a man earns the right to lock you down.

4. Allows you to focus on yourself instead of focusing on a man
You’re able to focus on YOUR needs, YOUR expectations, YOUR preferences because you’re not losing yourself to one “boyfriend”⁣

5. Increases your feminine energy ⁣
You’re less needy or pressed about a relationship going nowhere so you can be at ease & graceful for the different men you interact with. ⁣Allows you to regularly receive quality attention & dates instead of begging the one man who lost his reason to make an effort.

And best of all⁣…

You won’t have to ask “Where is this going?’ because you’ll be in control & the men you date will have to ask YOU😏

Explore your options, sis…quality men are def exploring theirs.

This is not complicated…summa y’all hear me say “Date multiple men” and start having seizures and start choking on the word “hoe”.
⁣ ⁣
Dating is about healthy, ethical and responsible interactions with another person in order to figure out if it’s viable to move forward towards an exclusive romantic relationship
⁣ ⁣
You don’t even have to hold hands to do that.

Samone, A Grown Ass Black Woman, also well-known as TorahCents, the creator of Curved to Cuffed™ and a happily married mom of one.

76 thoughts on “You Should Be Dating Multiple Men

  1. Yes i love it. Im doing this now. I dated a guy for 2 years and dropped everything and everyone I was dating. Big no no. I learned this method is working for me!!!

  2. A very good article with excellent points. I’m not too picky but in this area of the globe and my age there’s not a lot to choose from.

  3. This shit right here!!! Is EVERYTHING!!! I just sent this to my teenage daughter and niece, as this has set me free, and they can benefit by avoiding unnecessary experiences, hard lessons and regrets.

  4. I think this is a fantastic idea! Men have done it for decades. Y do they get to be the only ones with choices? I like the part where u said that we’re gathering data, not bodies. You DON’T have to sleep with everyone u date. FABULOUS INFORMATION!! Yasssss!!!!

    1. I have been on the side of dating one guy while he decided to take breaks and to me his breaks where pursuing other options!! I totally like the idea of “rotational dating “ this sounds interesting!!!

  5. You Hoes are forever just looking for excuses to be hoes. How about you date one man at a time and then if it doesn’t work out move on I understand that you don’t put all your eggs in one basket but damn a different date three days out the week foh 😂😂

    1. F you and the horse you rode in on. This has nothing to do with excuses for being a hoe and everything to do with MF’s like you trying to make women feel like they are doing something wrong for not bowing down to a man that’s out there being a hoe his damn self. It’s ok for him to do it but Lord forbid a woman not sit around and wait on his trifling behind to “choose” her. GTFOOHWTBS

    2. AnD you sir are apart of the “Weed’em out” process. Grown men don’t call women “Hoes”!! Start your own forum since it’s evident you don’t like this one….call it “Bitter Brothers”

    3. Lol yo name is run thru these hoes which mean u switch em up but u think grown women spose to fuck wit dudes like u exclusively till they get tired of u being a hoe. Come on now. U tryna cuff. Shid let me get my time in, she might be back to see u later

    4. A woman is a hoe because she DATES more than 1 person? Not fucking them, just dating? That’s a weird way of thinking.

    5. Yasss 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

      Keep it real so we know.

      Hunny I will date anyone else before I date a black man who defaults to “these hoes…”
      We ain’t even playing the same game in the same universe.

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  8. ABSOLUTELY Perfect. Woman take themselves off the market when they don’t have a signed deal. That’s the real problem never pre- qualified. So you took yourselves off the market no more showings or open houses now its winter and you find out that this man was never qualified in the first place. Now you’ve got to put yourself back on the market in the dead of winter. But had you continued to show and have more open houses you would’ve been sure to get the results you so desired. Lol Realtor ya’ll

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  15. I think women should be weighing their options and seeing what they like. I feel like it’s a competition because the end of the day we’re the prize. If everyone doesn’t want it or you is it really a prize ? What makes a prize a prize is that everyone wants it but only one person can have it. So it’s not “hoeing” or being a “hoe” it’s healthy competition. Men do the same thing. I feel like the social construct of hoeing is based off of masculine insecurities That come from what other males think about what the other male has. Etc e

  16. Lissen, as a 40ish woman ending a marriage to somebody I’ve been with for 20 years I have learned this to be the truth. I didn’t date multiple men in my 20s. I dropped all the dudes interested to chase this one. Nah. Not this time. And don’t fall for the there aren’t enough quality men to rotate, cuz it’s really not true.

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